Comment to "Relationships" by Carly Ray Benedict

Hi everyone! And Merry Christmas!

This blog post/note originated as a comment on Carly's blog post "Relationships!" and it got too long I thought to I posted it here. Please read Carly's blog, it is really great : )

Here it goes:

Carly, this is a really cool blog! and you understand more that you think, you were like, completely dead on! this is very thought provoking. a friend of mine (and yours I think) Josh Kuzumzak said something like "a lot of highschool relationships happen because of inpatients". instead of persuing a girl/guy that you "like" you should focus on building good solid relationships with guys and girls and only become good friends with a member of the opposite sex, even if they "like" you back. cause, believe it or not, you can have a great "just friendship" with someone you like. it took me a long time to realize that myself even though I had it all the time.

Haha, Carly, I am sorry this comment is so long, I should probably put it in my own blog!

Another thing is, as a friend (and as a boy/girlfriend or whatever), all the things you do must be sincere and genuine, and you must actually love the person and not faking love just to get something you want from the person. The love you have must be about the other person and not about yourself.
And, the love be for no matter what happens, to be willing to be a friend to this person even if they say they have feelings for you or vice versa and you too still love the person to be there friend even if they have feelings for you or even if they don't, no matter ho much it hurts. Not that you should go through Hell for friendship just for you; again, do everything as unto the Lord. Colossians 3:23 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men,

Goodnight, Merry Christmas, and God Bless. I'm praying for y'all

Victor.